Overcoming your inner demons – Psychological aspects and targeted coaching for more motivation
The “inner pig” is more than just laziness or lack of discipline – it often has deeper psychological roots. It is an interplay of internal blockages, Fears and habit patternsthat have become entrenched over the course of our lives. A better understanding of these mechanisms makes it possible not only to overcome them, but also to use them specifically for personal development.
1. Psychological causes of the inner demon
The comfort zone – the brain’s protective space
Our brain prefers routines and familiarity because they consume less energy and provide security. New challenges often seem threatening because they create uncertainty. Our inner demons kick in to protect us emotionally. This behavior can be overcome if we gradually accustom ourselves to new situations. The more we expose ourselves to these small challenges, the more flexible our thinking and actions become. Purposefully leaving our comfort zone can be associated with positive experiences, allowing the brain to find security in further development.
The reward system – dopamine and motivation
When goals seem too distant, our brain produces less dopamine—the "motivational neurotransmitter." This makes short-term rewards more attractive than long-term goals. Through intermediate milestones, visual goal tracking, and small successes, motivation can be specifically increased. By celebrating successes, even if they seem small, we train our brain to honor progress. Using methods like habit tracking or positive reinforcement, we build an internal reward system that works in the long term.
Procrastination – Postponing as a protection against anxiety
Procrastination is often a defense against fear of failure or criticism. While postponing things temporarily provides relief, it doesn't solve the problem. Coaching helps identify the root cause and develop new strategies for action. This also involves changing negative thought patterns. Together, we explore the internal drivers at work and which exercises can be used to integrate productive routines into everyday life. The goal is to make it easier to get started on tasks and transform resistance into motivation.
Negative beliefs and inner critics
Negative beliefs usually develop in childhood. Statements like "You're not good enough" become ingrained in our subconscious and influence our actions in adulthood. Through coaching, we learn to challenge these old voices and establish new, positive beliefs. Working with inner parts and methods like "The Work" or affirmation training helps us break away from old ways of thinking and develop a new inner attitude that fosters courage and freedom of action.
Self-esteem and identity
Coaching approach: Building healthy self-esteem begins with recognizing your own strengths. Coaching helps you unlock resources, unearth past successes, and build positive self-images. Reflecting on your own identity, professional roles, and personal development leads to greater inner clarity. Through targeted goal-setting and positive social reflection, we sustainably strengthen your self-image.
2. The lazy dog in coaching – tools for sustainable change
Mindset work: Refocusing
Instead of focusing on effort, focus on the positive results: How can I make my life better? A stronger "why" helps us stay motivated in the long term. Goals can be emotionally charged and must seem realistic. Our mindset influences how we interpret setbacks—as learning opportunities or defeats. With techniques like reframing and the growth mindset, we learn to view challenges as opportunities for growth.
Resolve emotional blockages
Unprocessed emotions can lead to inner resistance. In coaching, we use systemic questions, guided imagery, or inner dialogues to reveal and resolve hidden feelings. When emotions are given space, they can be transformed. Techniques such as the "inner team," constellations, or creative methods such as writing or drawing help to integrate emotions constructively.
The Power of Habits
Behavior develops through repetition. Small, clear routines help establish new behaviors. The focus is on minimal changes with big impact. Example: 5 minutes of exercise every day instead of obsessing over the gym. Those who take on too much often fail. Microsteps create a new identity: I am someone who is active. With the "hook system" or trigger habits, new routines are easily integrated into everyday life.
Visualization and mental strength
Mental training is standard in professional sports. In everyday life, visualization helps overcome your inner demons. Through mental images, successful scenarios, and repetition, the subconscious is primed for success. Whether imagining difficult conversations, goals, or habits—the brain barely distinguishes between imagination and reality. The more realistically we experience our future, the more tangible it becomes for our inner compass.
Mindfulness and stress regulation
Stress is one of the biggest triggers for procrastination. With mindfulness—for example, through breathing exercises or short break rituals—the internal alarm system is calmed. Clarity and focus return. We learn to feel the moment instead of reacting on autopilot. Practices like journaling, walking meditation, or "3-minute silence" help us connect with ourselves more consciously.
3. The inner pig as an ally
Your inner demon doesn't want to block you, but rather protect you. It shows you where fears, uncertainties, or unresolved issues still lie. Those who understand it can work with it instead of fighting against it. The image of the inner demon can change: from an opponent to a signal giver. Through collaboration, we learn to listen to its concerns, understand its language, and develop new solutions together. In this way, your inner demon becomes a pointer for necessary developmental steps.
- What is my inner demon trying to tell me?
- What needs are behind this?
- How can I work with him?
Conclusion: Coaching as the key to inner transformation
Overcoming your inner demons is a journey to Self-knowledge, clarity and inner strengthCoaching helps break old patterns, discover new paths, and develop courage. Change begins within and manifests itself externally. Those who understand themselves better can act more purposefully, live healthier lives, and make more conscious decisions. Your inner demons become a guide to an authentic life.
Final Thoughts
Understanding your inner demons is a first step. The second is accepting them as a part of ourselves. Everyone has hurdles. What matters is not whether they appear—but how we face them. The path begins with small, honest steps. Sometimes it takes conversations, new inspiration, or simply permission to be kind to yourself. Don't let yourself drift. Allow yourself to consciously steer.
Perhaps now is the moment to pause. To reflect. And then realign. Not perfectly, but authentically. Not faster, but more consciously. Inspiration often arises where clarity meets compassion. Where the inner demons no longer become an adversary, but a companion.
"What would I need to take a first small step today?"
"Where would I like to feel more freedom – internally and externally?"
"What can I allow myself to do to get moving?"
If you feel a conversation could help you gain some initial clarity, I warmly invite you to book a non-binding appointment for a meeting. No obligation, just a chance to exchange ideas.